the report that Jesse Jackson was caught on mike and on tape using the N word has sparked a frenzied debate about the subject. This video from the view is a good example. You'll hear a lot of talk in coming days from linguists and social scientists about how the word has evolved as a response to oppression, to become a word of indearment or comraderee within the black community.
At one point Hasselback says to Whoopie that "we all live in the same world" to which Whoopie replies "no we don't, that's just the way it is."
The point is we want to live in one world. We're trying to establish a free marketplace for individuals. Creating and maintaining symbols and language that are commonplace in one culture and forbidden in another is an unnecessary barrier.
Quit analyzing and just find a new word.